Getting The F/R Mixture Right

Getting the fantasy/reality mixture set correctly in your personal carburetor is one of the most difficult tasks in the home psychological workshop. And it needs to be tuned regularly to get the most out of the psyche.

Of course some people never do any of their own mental maintenance – preferring to leave it to the mechanics down at the clinic. This is fine most of the time, but upsets can throw off the fine balance of the mind and it is as well to know how to get the thing running smoothly without having to be towed in all the time.

Now some people never go past the factory settings. They start out with childish desires and fears and keep them for their entire lives. This is fine if they live in childish societies that never ask them for more. They are encouraged to believe in dragons and witches and evil spirits along with the rest of the population so that they will never want more. It can be an awful thing if someone shows them more and they realise they have been diddled…

Some people discard the fantasies early on. They drop the stuffed bears and model airplanes and dreams of football prowess and set out to grasp reality. In many cases what they grasp for is money and all it brings. In the past logic has been a more successful way to get this than folly, but lately the have been a number of good openings for the fantasizers in the population – as long as they can be entertaining enough.

Some fantasies hurt. Sexual and emotional ones in particular. The wise person who can see this in prospect will avoid it. The less wise who finds it to be the case by bitter experience… and desists…also benefits. The fool who persists or searches for new peril also generally finds it. Some sins can be as self-punishing as prophecies can be self-fulfilling.

For myself, I have run through dozens of fantasies and fantastic ventures in my life…few of them harmful. The only problems occurred when I did not realise the fantastic nature or when I failed to realise that the time for something was over. With new ventures, new pleasures and benefits have a chance to begin. Old failures can be left by the wayside and old mistakes noted for the future.

I still fantasize, but know how to apportion it to my resources and stamina.


Why Are We Entertained By…?

Why are we entertained by:

a. Depictions of murder.

What is attractive about reading or seeing the death of someone? If we need to have mysteries to puzzle and thrills to seek, why can they not be mysteries and thrills of discovery or accomplishment rather than bloodshed. Remember the movies that depicted the lives of Pasteur and Ehrlich.

Look at it this way; no-one wants to be injured or murdered themselves. It is something the sane person runs from. Goggling and gawping over that same sad fate for others calls into question a lot of our real morality.

b. Depictions of sex.

We may well be entertained ( or appalled ) by sex itself as it applies to us – the snorting , scooching, splashing, heaving , etc that occurs. But none of that touches us if it is just on a page or a screen.

Better to go look for a snort and a scooch in the real world. What you do when you find it should be a private matter.

c. Depictions of fantasy dragons, unicorns, and mystical wizards.

We’re old enough to know that none of that is real. There are enough exciting things in adult life without going back to the faerie tales. Feed your imagination for a while and then use that healthy imagination to live well in the real world.

d. Comic book movies.

Reading a comic book is fine, as is drawing and collecting them. What you see is what you get – and your imagination can supply well over half of the experience. When the motion picture industry steps in and tries to turn the simple into the complex or vice versa they do our minds a disservice. When they fill shops with plastic toy memorabilia they tax our wallets needlessly.

e. Political chaos.

No-one benefits from disastrous politics in Moscow, New York, or Sydney. Snorfling, meming, and giggling at the failings of the politicians to keep us safe, fed, and employed does no good whatsoever.

f. The antics of the rich and entitled.

Some of them are very pleasant to encounter in real life while some are positively dangerous. If these latter were less rewarded with sycophancy and celebrity, they might just fade off to their tax havens and leave the rest of us alone.