Have you ever noticed that when someone tries to degrade you they generally reveal what they are ashamed of within themselves?
It happens all the time when a boss criticises an employee for not making money – for the boss – or a parent rails at a child for not getting good school marks – in subjects that they could never understand themselves.
I find myself doing it in my mind all the time when I see other people making the wrong moves on the road or when entering shops. We’re meant to register our movements to help Covid tracing but a great many people fail to do so. I do it with my mobile phone whenever necessary but I’ll bet there have been times when I’ve forgotten.
I do feel ashamed on occasions when I give way to anger or smarminess. The best that can be done about this is to keep it internal – but that probably takes a toll as well. I guess it’s only time and philosophical rigour that will reduce the frequency.
As far as being on the receiving end…well, as I wrote, it is diagnostic. You can note it down on a person’s specification sheet. Whether you use it in the future is up to you.