The Delight Of Being Needed

Say what you like about the delights of sex, drugs, rocks and roll, or the 1953 Standard motor car – or about family and friendship and little bluebirds chirping – there is nothing quite as good as being needed.

It quiets the mental worm that gnaws at us; why are we here? Even if for only a short period of time we are here to help.

And it doesn’t really matter if we succeed. The thing is, we were called on. Even if we make a sad hash of whatever we do and make matters infinitely worse, the need was there and it was us that was needed.

This was the basic drive that made Boy Scouts stand at street corners and eye off old ladies. We were priming ourselves to swoop and help them across the road. As we got older and progressed from Boy Scouts to scouting for girls we used this early training on the street corners. We were extremely vigilant for a chance to help younger women into bars and into our cars. There were no merit badges on offer but we occasionally had things pinned on us.

2 thoughts on “The Delight Of Being Needed

  1. That’s true. I’ve thought sometimes that I’m a very non needy person and that can be difficult for partners particularly. I’m trying to make my adult son feel more needed, I feel that would bolster his self esteem.

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    1. It’s hard these days for people to feel needed if their work disconnects them from others. Or if everyone seems to be doing the very same things. There’s a fine line between being independent and needing real help. Hope he can get benefit from what you do.

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